Ten years ago, while visiting 2 of my college children who were both studying in Italy, a heart-changing conversation took place: “Mom when I introduce you to my friends, and they ask what you do, you talk about giving workshops. Why don’t you tell them what you really do?” my daughter wondered. What I really do! It’s true I give workshops but only a couple times a year. What I do is homeschool, try to manage a household, sort, clean, pick-up… constantly pick-up, carpool, and try to figure out what’s for supper. “Would they want to hear what I really do?” I asked. But as we continued to talk I realized a deeper problem had set in, a weariness, a lack of fervor in being a mother, a pulling away from my responsibilities at home. Many women I know are at a new stage in life, empty nesters and they seem to be on interesting ventures, and here I am after 18 years of home educating about to start teaching little Emma kindergarten. While the school year had been a full and beautiful one, it was almost over, and I was tired. Raising children is demanding with sacrifice and cost. But still, the problem went deeper; could it be I was shying away from my vocation? Could it be the grass looked not only greener on the other side, but immaculately mowed and weed free? As my husband and two oldest children shared this conversation in the restaurant, I began to cry. “Guys, I’ve been homeschooling a long time, maybe I want to do something else, maybe Emma and Margaret will just go to school.” Recognizing my state, Pete, Jim and Beth spoke words of affirmation that brought my tears down full force, “Mom do you know how much we love you? Do you know how grateful we are for what you gave us? Do you know how proud we are of you and the work you do? Mom, don’t give up! What you do is so important, it is so important for Emma and Margaret, John, Phil and Nick. Mom, keep going! You are doing the most important work. Mom tell me any work you could do that would be more important?” Wow, I was not expecting our Italian restaurant experience to take the kind of turn it was taking and I was also not anticipating that we would make the kind of scene we were making! Their words of affirmation were like a sword that pierced my heart allowing weariness to exit and truth and healing to enter in. I was stirred to persevere, to press on, and to continue home educating with new vigor. Looking back, I think of the day when I was leaving Mass with six of the kids in tow. The time at Mass had been a struggle. Some of my boys were teasing their sister. Margaret fell off the pew and wailed. I was discouraged and embarrassed by the kid's behavior. As I headed to the car, Evie Bedard, a woman in her 80’s must have sensed my discouragement. She stopped me with a prophetic word. “Marcie, you will look back at these days as some of the happiest in your life.” At home I pondered her words, they helped me relax and enjoy my children in a new way.I put up yellow post-it notes to remind myself to laugh each day with each child. It was for my own sake. These were happy days and I wanted to enjoy them. The years go fast; children don’t stay little long. Embrace each day that is given, and one day, sooner than you realize, you will look back with fondness on those happy days when you had the privilege to homeschool. - Marcie Stokman
You are home so much during the school day, doesn't it make sense to make your home into a place of beauty and inspiration? Make that goal a priority by stopping at Pacem Studio's booth at this year's Conference.
The mission of Pacem Studio is to provide affordable Christian art to a broad audience and, through these images, inspire people to recognize the real presence of God in their lives. My husband and I attended the Conference together and I was totally burned out. I went with the intention to buy a whole new curriculum. We went to Andrew Pudewa's talk on Friday night and came out with renewed energy. We were doing things right! We both laughed because his talk saved us tons of money! We laughed, and were relieved. -Laura (9 kids and 19 years of homeschooling) Dear Debra,
You have 6 beautiful children. Enjoy them because they will grow up so fast and leave home to do what God is asking them to do. You will be so proud of them as they enter their life's work so your job is to train them to love, live and work for the Lord. You love camping and and should go more often. Call it geography, science, math, and nature studies. Your hands-on approach to homeschooling will be best. Laugh more, sing more and have their friends over more. Visiting extended family is a gift you will give your family. Do it all you can! You will have a wonderful time homeschooling! There will be some great days and some down days but if you had to do it over, you would homeschool again. Homeschooling MOM, Debra "Tis the season when lots of parents are trying to decide the details of their school plans for fall 2019. Even if you're not a doctor or a lawyer, we think you'll agree with many of Dr. Kathleen Berchelmann's 18 points. I’m going public today with a secret I’ve kept for a year—my husband and I are homeschooling our children. I never dreamed we would become homeschoolers. I wanted my kids integrated and socialized. I wanted their eyes opened to the realities of the world. I wanted the values we taught at home put to the test in the real world. But necessity drove me to consider homeschooling for my 2nd and 4th graders, and so I timidly attended a home school parent meeting last spring. Surprisingly it was full of doctors, lawyers, former public school teachers, and other professionals ...
Read the full piece here. "The conference is my annual motivator when I need it most. I love to see the products and have the chance to talk to the vendors. For my husband and I, it's been great for our commitment, as a couple, to homeschooling."
If I could send some advice back to myself when I started to homeschool, here's what I'd say ... "Don't worry about your kids' standardized test scores when they are young. (Your daughter that scored a 52 in 2nd grade will be in the 90's in highschool and get a 4.0 in her first year of college.)"
-Amy (7 kids, 16 years of homeschooling and counting) One of my favorite Conference memories is of the year I overheard a woman at the Friday used book sale mentioning that she was in labor but REALLY needed to get the things on her list. I was impressed with her devotion but at the same time making a mental list of all the nurses I knew who were in the room.
(Actually, the combined childbirth experience of people in that room had to be pretty phenomenal. It was probably a pretty okay place to be in labor.) -Sue (Conference organizer) Help your children foster a love for the Church and her rich traditions while developing a lifelong skill. Children from grades 1 and older are invited to participate in the Cathedral's sacred music programs and sing at Masses in our amazing Cathedral in addition to other Archdiocesan events. Stop at their vendor booth to learn more about this unique opportunity. Choir Schools, having historically-proven ability for quality musical training remain important for the renewed Roman Catholic liturgy. The Church’s rich legacy of musical education of children/youth extends back to medieval times, and the treasury of Sacred Music, from the early ages of the Church to the present, is the foundation of the musical, liturgical, and theological curriculum of the Cathedral Choir School. Our curriculum strives to foster a love for the Most Holy Trinity whilst deepening the understanding of the Catholic Faith. The Cathedral Choir School, under the direction of Ms. Jayne Windnagel, and is organized into two levels for students from 1st grade through high school.
Saint Thomas Choristers: Our preparatory choir for 1st–3rd Grades, ages 6-8. Rehearse Wednesdays 4:00 p.m.-5:00 p.m. Sing Mass monthly, immediately following rehearsal. Saint Cecilia (girls) and Saint Gregory (boys) Choristers: 4th Grade–High School, ages 9-17. Rehearse Wednesdays 4:00 p.m.-5:10 p.m. Sing Mass immediately following rehearsal from 5:15 p.m.–6:00 p.m. Sing other Masses and Archdiocesan events monthly throughout the school year. |